Build effective relationships without stepping on people’s toes

You will meet a lot of people as you walk along your life journey to the world of success or failure depending on your mindset.   Your intention as you walk or drive or fly should be to build as many fruitful relationships as you can so as to enhance your capacity and chances to succeed in life.   I am sure you want to attract to yourself people with strengths that you do not have. In the process of attracting people to yourself, you have to be mindful of other people’s likes and dislikes.  You should be aware that there are a number of things which majority of people tend to hate.   People will deliberately avoid you if you have the following negative behaviours;

Negative people

The experience of dealing with negative people is quite a downer and that person tends to spoil the happy moments of other people.


No for answer

There are people who have a ‘NO ‘as standard   answer to anything in any situation whether good or bad.  It is extremely difficult to understand   a person of this character.  Does   a ‘No’ mean the end of the road or a ‘No’ means wait or something which cannot work! No tends to be state of mind.  Some people can give  you a ‘No’ when you  go straight to them but  a ‘Yes’ when you  approach them  through their  personal assistant. If you have this character you will not go far in building relationships with other people.

People who do not listen

People hate people who do not listen to others point of view.  The people who do not listen talk like a machine with no commas, breaks and stops.  Some people even do have a moment for breathing! They want to monopolise the talk.  For sure if you have this character people will run away from you and you will remain alone.


Rude people

Some people are not properly and adequately cultured or mannered and they are rude to everyone and I guess also to themselves.  No one wants a conversation with rude people.


People who are not transparent

You are not open in your communication and accountable for whatever you say.  You tend to use coded   language.

People who have no value

Some people have no name to protect as their behaviour is not driven by a set of values. They can say anything and then deny it when confronted to defend themselves. People want to be with other people who add value to them.

People who have no goals

Some people who think   every day is Sunday for relaxation and enjoyment. Their behaviour is like that of a butterfly as they are flown around by the wind.  These types of people do not have any goals in their mind. They have no idea of why they were created.  These people tend to waste time of others.

Arrogant people

These are the people who think that they are more important than others when in actual fact they are not important at all.


People with superiority complex   

This is a defensive mechanism which makes someone to think or feel is more superior to others. Quite often these people use their superiority complex to conceal their inferiority complex.

People who have not concern for others

Whatever they do,   they do not care the impact of the action on others. These people belong to world of selfish people.

Quarrelsome people

Some people have quarrelling as their hobby. They quarrel all the time from morning to evening until sleep catches up with them.

People who hate other people’s culture

You are what you are because of your culture.  Someone who hates your culture for sure also hates you because of your culture.

People are not mindful of the environment

We are trustees of our environment for our future generations. We have therefore to exploit the environment in a sustainable manner to ensure it will be there for future generation


The world is global village and everyone is connected to the other. You have to be good citizens with acceptable behaviour to live in the global village. If you do not moderate your behaviour other people in the village will avoid you. I am sure you will moderate your behaviour as you do not want to be alone in the global village.


Author: John Muhaise-Bikalemesa,
Director Big Drum Advisory Services,